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1 Reply For Constance

Tuesday, August 17th, 2010

A comment was left from someone after they read about letting go of children.  I will post a reply once I feel I have something from the Bible to share with them here. 

I do not leave comments placed on this site unless I know the person by name because of spam.

Here is a comment I found written by Constance:

Wow – am a Christian – found this by accident today. Just what I needed! Having to learn the hard way about letting married daughter go but does God have any comfort for parents about this stage in their lives? would appreciate Christian comment.

************* God sends forth His Holy Spirit as a comforter and teacher.  God’s Word is what gives me comfort during times of sorrow. 

I know it’s hard to let go of our children.  I gave birth to 5 children and had to let go of one because he died on the day of his birth.  I had no choice in that matter.  His death made me cling to trying to nurture, teach, and bless the other children as much as possible. 

After we give them all that love & attention then we are instructed to let them go and that is so hard.  Letting them go does not mean forgetting to pray for them or neglecting to be led by God to help them in certain ways while we still reside on earth.  I believe letting them go and releasing them to God means we quit trying to physically fight their battles for them.

I’ve seen how it harms a child when the parent just won’t take their hands off of their child’s life.  If the parent keeps panning out money to help the child they usually keep the child from learning how to rely on God fully.  If the parent keeps trying to get involved when the child has marital battles or other battles it is again like trying to tear down a brick wall with your own hands.  Children must learn to trust God for the sustenance.  How many times must we be reminded  that God is the one who supplies our needs?  Parents will not ever be able to do everything for their adult children.  It is clearly impossible for a parent to do for a child what only God can do. 

If you let go of your child(ren) and pray for them when you see a need you are actually taking a step of faith.  If you refuse to make them learn how to obtain sustenance from God it is possible you will become the one that enables them to think you are their provider instead of the Lord of all.  Can you take the place of the Lord in their life?  Are you able to meet their every need?

Who will take care of them if it happens that you leave this earth before they do?  If they leave this earth before you will you know that you did your best & you trusted God with the rest?

 

PARENTS SHOULD ALWAYS RECALL THAT ONCE A ADULT CHILD IS MARRIED THAT CHILD IS NOT SUPPOSED TO CLING TO THE PARENTS.  THE BIBLE SAYS THE MAN & WOMAN ARE SUPPOSED TO CLING TO ONE ANOTHER.  HOW MANY MARRIAGES ARE SPOILED BECAUSE A PARENT GETS TOO INVOLVED IN THE LIFE OF THEIR NEWLYWED CHILDREN?

Make a special note of the fact that when friends & family get involved in the lives of their adult children because they see abuse then it is not the same thing as getting involved in bad ways.  When there is abuse do say everything you can & do all you can to protect those who are being harmed.

Domestic Violence is a horrible thing.  It is happening in too many homes.  Please pray that something will be done to stop the abuse going on in so many homes.  There are  women & children that are being abused emotionally, spiritually, and physically on a daily basis. 

 

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Abandonment

Wednesday, August 11th, 2010

I just told friends that I am saying a prayer for those who have gone through abandonment. 

Some people think abandoment only happens when someone physically picks up and leaves.  What they do not always understand is abandonment comes in many forms.

I’ve found many people who have suffered what it’s like to have someone withdraw their love, duty, support, or kindness from them.  When someone withdraws their love from the other person they are abandoning them.  This abandonment can happen even when people are living together. 

A woman leaves her husband or a husband leaves the wife but if you hear both sides of the story you are apt to find that they separated long before anyone physically left the marital home.  The woman may have left in the physical sense but the man may have left her feeling as though he abandoned her long before she walked out the door.

A child may be left to take care of responsibilities at home while the parents busy themselves with a career.  If the child is not given the support they need and if the responsibility left on their shoulders is too difficult of a task they may feel abandoned and overwhelmed.

A family may suffer the loss of a family member due to death or divorce.  Their church family may not bother to call them or check on them.  They will probably also feel abandoned.

In Isaiah 54 God basically tells us that God will be the Husband that takes care of us.  There may have been times in life when we felt distressed in spirit or abandoned.  God says to us that He knows about our times of rejection and He will bring us back.  He will have compassion on us.

Isaiah 54:5-8 “For your Maker is your husband—
       the LORD Almighty is his name—
       the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer;
       he is called the God of all the earth. The LORD will call you back
       as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit—
       a wife who married young,
       only to be rejected,” says your God.”For a brief moment I abandoned you,
       but with deep compassion I will bring you back.In a surge of anger
       I hid my face from you for a moment,
       but with everlasting kindness
       I will have compassion on you,”
       says the LORD your Redeemer.”

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Helpful Link With Biblical Answers To Abuse

Monday, August 2nd, 2010

http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/Religion/bible.htm

A link here that gives Biblical responses to abuse

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God Fearing Men Should Be Against Domestic Violence

Monday, July 19th, 2010

When a man fears God he should stand up for what is right.

It  isn’t just something he says he will do with his mouth.  Standing up against domestic violence means doing something to change your own ways in your own home. 

Don’t scream at your wife and children.

Don’t strike your wife and children. 

Don’t cause panic in their hearts as you demand your own way.

Don’t put restraints on them from being free to live a healthy & happy life in the Lord.

Do not envy your mate’s or your children’s well being.

Do not provoke your family. 

Treat your wife and children with respect.

Do speak kindly to your family members at all times.

Lead your family with gentle words.

Share your things with your family. 

Be considerate about the wants and needs of your family.

Encourage and uplift  your spouse and your children.

Find ways to put joy on their faces.  Do this consistently.

Give happiness & it will be given unto you.

 

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I’ve met and seen a man that walked in violence instead of walking in love. He was most assuredly the unhappiest fellow I ever knew.

He had no lasting joy.  His head was disturbed.  Any peace he obtained was temporary. What a sad soul.

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If you want to be remembered for doing kind things then consistently do kind things. 

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There Are Christian Men Against Domestic Violence & Lies

Monday, July 19th, 2010

There are now groups of Christian men against domestic violence. 

The men of God get together and tell women that they are valued in God’s eyes.  These Godly men realize the Christian woman is the temple of the Holy Ghost – a most sacred place.  Now we know a God fearing man would not walk into God’s temple and defile it, scream in it, tear it up, rant or rave at it. 

Christian men & women are speaking up against abuse.

Hey,  I have also been reminded that some men are abused but they have been quick to point out that men are the stronger ones.  God’s Word says the men are stronger.  There are more cases of domestic violence against the women & children than there is agaisnt men.  It is wrong to commit this crime.

Each person should be able to live a holy life without fear of abuse. 

JESUS is a gentleman.  Men are expected to be gentle, tender hearted, forgiving, and kind to all women and children, too.

These people are also aware of the fact that many abusers will lie about their victims.  There is nothing hidden from God’s sight.  God is causing his believers to wake up to the truth about cases of domestic violence.

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