I was reviewing Proverbs 17:9. It’s the spot where it says something about how revealing a matter may separate friends. It may take a lot of discipline to keep from telling things others don’t want revealed. It makes sense to just treat others the way you want treated.
They say the book of Proverbs could be called the book of wisdom.
I need wisdom so I enjoy reading the Biblical Proverbs.
I believe I’ve seen where words can separate friends. Repeating personal things you know about someone especially if you repeat those things you know may embarass your friend can cause a lot of pain.
I guess it’s like touching a hot stove. Once you’ve been burned you don’t want to go back for more pain.
About the only time I think it’s important to repeat matters is if you know someone is being harmed and it’s up to you to do all you can to protect the one(s) being harmed. I am talking about things like child abuse and other crimes when I say it is then important to do some repeating of what you know. A proper balance is needed when thinking about these things. God’s Word also talks about bringing dark things out into the light and exposing those things that are hidden. Defending those who cannot defend themselves is something we must do, too. Finding the right way to do things isn’t always easy but God’s Holy Spirit can guide you if you will seek His help.
I think it’s great when loved ones care enough to speak up if they feel great harm may occur if they don’t try to give some sort of warning in certain situations.
I’ve been very blessed to have a good friend that has stuck by me closer than a brother or sister. She was put in my life not long after my son died. I found I was able to tell her anything. As far as I know she’s never repeated a matter that I didn’t want retold.
She and I have both agreed that it’s great to have a confidante. It’s wonderful to be able to keep some matters private and in prayer. We’d also agree that there are things you may have to get exposed if it involves criminal behavior. It’s good to have a friend like that.
Can you keep a secret? Do you know when it’s time to speak up and when it’s time to refrain from speaking?
Ecclesiastes 3 tells us there is a perfect time for every event. There are times for speaking and for being quiet. May the good Lord guide us all to do things His way.